It’s the last week of October and you know what that means! Time to talk about asexuality. Okay – it’s okay to talk about it anytime, really, but every year, the Asexual Awareness Week comes in late October (it runs from October 24 to 30 this year). This is an opportunity to learn more about what homosexuality really is and how to help people who identify themselves as non-sexual (or “one”).
I wanted to better understand homosexuality as a sexual phenomenon. Yes, it is considered a sexual phenomenon! Especially since my friend Cori *, 17, who identifies as asexual and fragrant, told me, “The general population doesn’t view asexuality the way they see (other) LGBTQ + identities.”
I thought, why don’t people talk or understand as much about asexuality as they do about other trends?
Which i didn’t know
Before learning more about it, I thought that asexuality simply means that a person has no sexual or romantic feelings. I didn’t realize that romance and sexuality are not the same thing, even though they can go together sometimes.
I did not know that there are many people who fall under the umbrella of asexuality. For example, some people say fragrant (lack of romantic desire for others), heterosexual (lack of sexual attraction for someone unless there is a deep emotional connection) and gray asexual (between sexual and non-sexual). Identify as To identify!
Homosexuality is on a spectrum, and some people who identify it as ace have romantic feelings, not sexual desire. In fact, there are many heterosexuals who date and have relationships. Just because someone is heterosexual doesn’t mean they don’t want deeper relationships with others!
Another misconception is that asexuality is abstinence or anger. People may choose to abstain from sex because of personal or religious beliefs, but it is not the same as not wanting to have sex. People who identify themselves as ace do not have sex because of their familiarity.
Loneliness can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. “We live in a world that prefers romantic attraction,” says Corey. “It’s easy to feel like you’re losing an entire aspect of being human because of how normal it is.” I asked her how she did it. “It simply doesn’t work out, nor does it have to do with your friends talking about their love and love lives.”
Seen and heard
I realized how important it is for everyone to feel that they have a place where they feel and hear.
“Being single means that I spend most of my emotional work and time on other things that make me feel complete,” says Corey. “I consider Platonic love to be just as important and fulfilling, so I spend most of my time talking to friends, helping them with their problems, and so on.”
Being universal and talking more about asexuality can help raise awareness and reduce stigma. Want to know more about what it means to be an ace? See The Trevor Project for more information. And take part in Ace Week here!
* Not his real name.
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